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    Our objectives  at My Life Direction are as following:

    Objectives:

    •        ·        To stop aggressive behavior.

                    To develop alternatives to violence.    

  •      To develop hope for positive change.

    ·        To learn about behaviors that causes other people to reject you.

    ·        To decrease inappropriate teasing and decrease sibling rivalry.

    ·        To decrease sarcasm and anger in response to threat.

    ·        To learn and identify self angering thoughts.

    ·        To learn ways to decrease anger.

    ·        To learn to release angry feelings through self talk.

         To learn how thoughts of revenge keep you angry

    • Bullying is a form of abuse. It comprises repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power with the more powerful individual or group abusing those who are less powerful. The power imbalance may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target.  Bullying happens when someone hurts or scares another person on purpose and the person being bullied has a hard time defending himself or herself. Usually, bullying happens over and over, by an individual or group with more power, either in terms of physical strength or social standing.  Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. 

    Some bullies attack their targets physically, which can mean anything from shoving or tripping to punching or hitting, or even sexual assault. Others use psychological control or verbal insults to put themselves in charge. For example, people in popular groups or cliques often bully people they categorize as different by excluding them or gossiping about them (psychological bullying). They may also taunt or tease their targets (verbal bullying).Verbal bullying can also involve sending cruel instant or email messages or even posting insults about a person on a website — practices that are known as cyber bullying.  Bullying also can happen online or electronically. Cyber bullying is when children, teens or even adult, bully each other using the Internet, mobile phones or other cyber technology. Sending mean text, email, or instant messages, posting nasty pictures or messages about others in blogs or on Web sites, using someone else's user name to spread rumors or lies about someone.

    BULLY-

    A bully is a person who

    • Has never learnt to accept responsibility for their behavior  
    • Abdicates and denies responsibility for their behavior and its consequences (abdication and denial are common features of bullying)
    • Is unable and unwilling to recognize the effect of their behavior on others
    • Does not want to know of any other way of behaving
    • Is unwilling to recognize that there could be better ways of behaving.
    • Wants to enjoy the benefits of living in the adult world, but is unable and unwilling to accept the responsibilities that are a prerequisite for being an adult.

                            How to spot a bully in your workplace
    If you have a bully on the staff  that department, or office will showing excessive rates of

    • Staff turnover
    • Sickness absence
    • Stress breakdowns  
    • Ill-health retirements
    • Early retirements
    • Uses of disciplinary procedures
    • Grievances initiated
    • Suspensions
    • Dismissals 
    • litigation including employment tribunals or legal action against employees  

    Characteristics of Children Who Bully

    ·                                 May witness physical and verbal violence or aggression at home.

     

    ·                                 They have a positive view of this behavior, and they act aggressively toward other people    including adults.

     

    ·                                 May hit or push other children.

     

    ·                                 Are often physically strong.

     

    ·                                 May or may not be popular with other children around their same age.

     

    ·                                 Have trouble following rules.

     

             Show little concern for the feelings of others

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    Many bullies think highly of themselves. They like being looked up to. And they often expect everyone to behave according to their wishes. Children who bully are often not taught to think about how their actions make other people feel.

    Children who bully are at risk for school failure and dropout and for committing criminal acts later in life. 

     

    BULLIES-

    Some bullies are big, strong, and physically scary. But the thing you need to remember is that bullies aren’t really strong inside. Inside themselves they feel small, scared and worried that others will really see who they are.  Sometimes bullies have been hurt themselves and have a lot of anger inside them that they need to get rid of. 

    Some bullies are mean because that is the environment in their house-everyone yells and calls names as their form of communication. Others are looking for someone to dominate. Some bullies may just be looking for attention. Some have low self-esteem or are confused about life

    What are the signs that a child is being bullied?

    The pain and embarrassment of being bullied often causes victims to hide what is going on. But, there are a variety of ways to tell if your child is being bullied. Symptoms include:

    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Safety concerns
    • Sadness
    • Aggression
    • Academic issues
    • Low self-esteem
    • Deficits in peer relations
    • Substance use
    • Numerous lost belongings
    • Frequent injuries or damage to clothes or property
    • Spends time primarily with younger students (may indicate a problem with peers)
    • Avoids recess (i.e., playground) before, during and/or after school
    • Arrives to school late or just at the starting bell
    • Appears to be alone most of the time at school
    • Obtains an excessive or insufficient amount of sleep
    • Somatic complaints (i.e., headaches, stomachaches, etc.)
    • loses appetite or has difficulty getting to sleep
    • waits to use the bathroom at home
    • arrives home with torn clothes, unexplained bruises
    • asks for extra money for school lunch or supplies, extra allowance
    • wants to carry a protection item, such as a knife

    What are the signs that a child is bullying others?

    • Children who bully tend to have:
      • Average or above average self-esteem.
      • Impulsive personalities.
      • Lack of empathy.
      • Difficulty conforming to rules.
      • Positive attitudes toward violence.
    • Some bullies are quite popular, enjoying high status and esteem from their peers, and even teachers. These are called “Hidden bullies” - popular children who exhibit aggression (persistent arguing, fighting, getting in trouble).
    Click on the video to the left and also see link below:

    Court filing reveals taunted teen's anguish in final hours - CNN report
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