Strategies to Keep Anger at Bay
- Monitoring your cynical thoughts by maintaining a "hostility log." This will teach you about the frequency and kinds of situations that provoke you.
- Acknowledge any problems in coping with anger.
- Seek the support of important people in your life.
- By keeping your hostility log you are able to realize when and where you are having aggressive thoughts, so that when you find yourself in these situations, you can utilize such techniques as deep breathing, positive self-talk, or thought stopping, which can help you interrupt the anger cycle.
- Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
- Learn how to laugh at yourself and see humor in situations.
- Learn how to relax.
- It is also important that you practice trusting other people. It's usually easier to be angry than to trust.
- Good listening skills improve communication and can facilitate trusting feelings between people.
- Learn how to assert yourself. This is a constructive alternative to aggression.
- If you live each day as if it were your last, you will realize that life is too short to get angry over everything.
- The final step requires forgiving those who have angered you.